The day after the incident both my wife and daughter ask why I wasn’t carrying my 44 Mtn Gun ? I took them to our range and set half a dozen 2x4 scraps of lumber on the ground 10-15 feet away and then asked each to hit as many as they could, as quickly as possible and handed them my light weight S&W 44 . Then we did it with the 9mm.

It’s a good exercise , especially if you can generate some adrenaline first